Ayes and nays won't suffice. Unilateral declarations by a team leader won't either. Both of these approaches position decisions as foregone conclusions. Both reduce the likelihood that someone with a dissenting opinion or lingering doubt will air it. A better approach is to check in with each individual in a way that is both public and sincere. It would sound something like this. "Before we move forward, I want to be sure we aren't missing anything. I want to hear from each and every one of you about this. I'll start with you, Mary. What are you thinking about this plan?" The same sort of question would be posed to every team member, in turn. Listening and asking follow-up questions to truly understand what's offered will help the team make better decisions and to have stronger buy-in.
In any group meeting, extroverts have an advantage. They speak first. They speak more often. And they speak more forcefully. Introverts prefer to collect their thoughts and process them internally rather than aloud. They formulate what they want to say before saying it. When a team's extroverts have moved on too quickly, they miss out on the contributions other may be gearing up to make. It's important to slow down and respect the stylistic differences so all team members have an opportunity to speak when they are ready to do so. Before any deep dive into a topic is finished, pause. Allow a few seconds of silence (extroverts will just have to wait!), and invite those who typically aren't first to share what they are thinking.
Diverse opinions get squelched when people merely tolerate them. Valuing diverse opinions means showing genuine interest, being willing to explore them, and actively seeking them out. A true appreciation for others' perspectives will yield more input from more people. Since it's not easy to fake interest, work on developing that sincere interest. Stay open and receptive to ideas that challenge your own way of thinking. Exercise humility in acknowledging that your ideas can always be enhanced with others' input. At a minimum, use others' input to test your ideas and to stretch them to new heights.
In any conversation, whoever speaks first steers the direction of the dialogue. Others react to what's already been said. That's why it's so important for different team members to open different conversations. Taking turns, as formal as that may seem, is one way to ensure that the same voice isn't anchoring every conversation. For the more introverted members of your team, ask ahead of time for kick-off statements. When the agenda is set, name someone to open the conversation. This enables the preparation time that introverts prefer.
People rise to others' expectations. Be clear, as a team, that you all expect to hear from each other on important topics and decisions. Hold each other accountable to contributing. When someone hasn't weighed in, ask what they're thinking or feeling about the discussion. Strive for full participation. You may notice that some team members struggle to contribute when they know their point of view is different from the majority's. Be sensitive and open to encourage participation in these moments. Often, what's not being said is exactly what needs to be said.
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