My position was that the best sales reps are authentic, true to themselves, transparent and consistent in how they represent themselves and their companies.
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I’ve come around. No, I haven’t changed my mind (or my color) on this one. But I have realized that these two qualities are not mutually exclusive. I still hold firm about the need to be authentic in your sales approach because robo-selling just doesn’t work. What I’ve learned, though, is that it is possible and even essential to adapt my style to the people I’m selling to… without giving up who I am or in any way misrepresenting myself.
This is a fine line, so let me explain.
In a way, I’ve always understood the need to adapt to others. I did it instinctively. As I defined “being myself,” I noticed that empathizing with others and modifying my style choices to communicate effectively are parts of me that I value. There have been times when I have withheld adapting to others and times when I have tried too hard and forced myself to adapt in ways that were not comfortable or authentic. Both extremes took me down the path that felt disingenuous.
Being true to myself includes naturally adapting to others, making space for their style and preferences. It makes me (gasp) a chameleon! And I’m okay with that. You see, a chameleon doesn’t really change. Only its appearance changes as it blends into its surroundings. For the chameleon, this is a matter of survival. Perhaps that could be true for sales reps, too.
Sales reps who pitch the same product the same way over and over again fail to connect with prospects and customers. Sales reps who pitch what they want to sell seldom fare better in forming genuine connections. I’ve observed both types, and I’ve heard both types justify their sales approach with comments like “This is who I am. Take it or leave it.” Some go further, saying they’ve chosen the selling profession because it’s one with lots of freedom to be yourself.
I’m not buying it any more. I think it actually boils down to a lazy, lackadaisical way of doing business. Being a chameleon requires a lot more effort than doing what you please, how you please.
Buyers want us to be chameleons. This isn’t about being fake or manipulative. It’s about being tuned in and responsive. What we hear from empowered buyers in the new age of selling is that they want (and even demand) sellers they can trust. At the heart of trust is connection. Being a chameleon enables you to connect and, therefore, to be trusted.
At the risk of being misunderstood, let me magnify this distinction even more. I am not talking about putting on an act, turning on the charm, or schmoozing to gain favor. The stereotypical con artist behaviors that give our profession a bad name are exactly the opposite of what I’m suggesting here. Adapting your sales approach does not mean you are trying to fool someone. It is the equivalent of speaking more slowly when you interact with someone who has a different first language than yours. It is a courtesy similar to yielding in traffic even though you’re in a hurry. The purpose of adapting is to make room for someone else to be in the relationship with you.
Psychometric instruments like DISC and MBTI include training on how to adapt style in selling situations. It’s not difficult to understand or to do, but relatively few sales reps adapt their style from one sales call to the next, treating all customers the same. The opening patter when they greet the customer is unchanged from one sales call to the next. The manner in which they present information is rote. Their tone, mannerisms and pacing through the sales call is “cut and paste.” When I ask sellers about this, it often takes them by surprise. Most have not thought about making stylistic changes to suit the customer.
At a minimum, the following considerations should be made. Even without studying personality type, these are common sense adaptations that can easily be integrated into any sales process and into every sales call.
Adapting to some of these styles will be a stretch, and it may even be uncomfortable. If you’re not into numbers and logic, adapt your sales approach to show respect for your customer’s finesse. Don’t be afraid of their questions about the analysis – take someone on the call with you from marketing or finance if it’s going to get so deep in minutiae that you truly won’t be able to keep up. Figure out similar workarounds for whichever style makes you squirm. You will be more effective when you do this, and you will develop a sense of ease over time if you stretch yourself. Soon, you’ll be just like the chameleon, adapting without thinking about in response to the environment you’ve encountered.