This isn't the only place I've observed behaviors that signify a misunderstanding about the purpose of conversing. The very same thing happens all too often in sales.
I understand why it happens. Sellers are fueled by adrenaline, eager to make a sale, desperate to be understood and operating in limited time with the buyer.
Despite those reasons, we all need to remember that they don't give out awards for fastest talker, first to talk, who talks loudest, or who talks the most. There is no win when you argue every point the buyer makes.
Nevertheless, in field coaching, these are common behaviors.
If conversation were to be a competitive sport, the winners would be the ones who exhibit different behaviors. In fact, I wish there were prizes given for the behaviors that connect us to buyers and promote effective conversations.
Here are my nominations for the categories I would give awards for:
If these were the awards given in sales conversations, how many trophies would you have on your desk?
The ACT listening model serves as a reminder. Before we talk, we should pay very close attention to what's being said. Then we should check our comprehension. And only then should we talk about the ways we can help with the needs that have been described.
Within this model, there's no such thing as talking over another person or taking over a conversation.
What are your thoughts about ways to improve buyer-seller conversations? Add your comments here and let's all practice understanding one another.