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How to Hone Your Active Listening Skills

Developing active listening skills is as easy as (and as difficult as) developing a new habit. A seller has to commit to changing what he or she is doing while listening.

The easiest way to start developing new habits for active listening is by taking inventory of your current listening habits. When someone else is talking, make note of your own behaviors. Catch yourself when your mind wanders and re-center your attention on the speaker. You will have to do this even when you begin mentally weighing your options for how to respond. If you do, your response will be better because you won’t miss what the speaker says next.cover for site 2015

Two Simple Tips for Developing Active Listening Skills

One tip for focusing your listening is to jot down any disruptive thoughts. Writing them down will assure you can come back to those thoughts, and you’ll release the mental energy it takes to hang on to them.

Another tip to focus your listening and prevent you from interrupting or playing a “one up” game is to listen for what is unfamiliar instead of for what’s familiar. Our brains naturally tune in to what is familiar to us but, by doing so, we can easily miss what’s new or different. When you deliberately practice listening for what is different – unfamiliar, new, unusual, unlike what you’ve seen or heard before – you will find your mental processing takes more time and keeps you focused longer and better.

These two tips are starting points for forming better listening habits. If a seller starts with just these two tips and works to improve his or her active listening skills, there will be a distinct differentiation as compared to other sellers. This, coupled with a strategic intent to fully understand customer needs, will give you a clear advantage.

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